Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes seem like one of Hollywood’s most solid couples, even though they keep most of their romantic life pretty private. They first sparked dating rumors in 2011 while filming The Place Beyond the Pines, and have been going strong ever since. Here, we look back at their connection over the last decade and beyond.
The couple were friends for many years before they started dating, according to Oprah Mag.
“We had known each other for a while already, so to work together was really exciting,” Mendes said of filming The Place Beyond the Pines in New York together. But soon, they seemed to be spending a lot of time together for just friends.
“There’s always been this strong chemistry between them…this was just a matter of time!” said a source on set.
In September of that year, the pair were seen smooching at Disneyland. An observer told Us Magazine how flirty they were.
“They were very playful,” they said. “Eva was skipping around like a little girl…She would lean into him and she held his arm the entire time.”
Like Zendaya and Tom Holland, Gosling and Mendes got busted while making out at a stoplight in Hollywood. Soon after, they flew out to Paris together.
The next summer, the couple visited Gosling’s native country, Canada, and spent time with his mother, Donna. Donna was apparently a big fan of Mendes.
“Donna and Eva get along really, really well,” said a source. “Donna wants Ryan to settle down and Eva is all about getting him on that train too, so they’re both on the same page.”
Another source claimed that Mendes’ family also gave the relationship the all-clear. “Eva says that’s what sealed the deal with Ryan” the insider said. ‘They’re going to make it.”
The Place Beyond the Pines premiered at the Toronto Film Festival, and the couple posed on the red carpet together.
They were also each other’s date when the movie premiered in NYC at the Landmark Sunshine Cinema.
Mendes gave birth to the couple’s first child, their daughter Esmeralda Amada. Mendes had apparently not planned to be a mom, but that changed when she and Gosling got together.
“Then it made sense for me to have… not kids, but his kids,” she told Women’s Health. “It was very specific to him.”
Gosling’s directorial debut Lost River is released, co-starring Mendes.
Gosling made some rare comments about his relationship, saying in an interview with Hello! magazine, “I know that I’m with the person I’m supposed to be with.”
When pressed about what qualities he looks for in a woman he said the only only quality he looks for is “that she’s Eva Mendes…There’s nothing else I’m looking for.”
The pair welcome their second daughter, Amada Lee.
Marriage rumors swirl around the couple, and Us Weekly reported that they’d had a ceremony with “a small group of family and friends.”
Soon after, TMZ refuted the story.
In 2011, Mendes had told Chelsea Handler, “I’m not like anti-marriage or the institution, like for other people. And I love the idea of a union—that’s all very beautiful. But I think, you know, it’s a very old fashioned, archaic kind of thing. We did it for land originally. How unromantic is that?”
She added that it would be fun “to be with someone in your fifties and sixties and be like, ‘That’s my boyfriend.’”
Gosling received a Golden Globe award for La La Land, and thanked “his lady” for her support.
“While I was singing and dancing and playing piano, and having one of the best experiences I’ve ever had on a film, my lady was raising our daughter, pregnant with our second, and trying to help her brother fight his battle with cancer,” Gosling said. “If she hadn’t taken all of that on, so that I could have this experience, there would surely be someone up here today, so, sweetheart, thank you.”
Mendes told Access Hollywood a little about parenting her with Gosling.
“It’s so fun and beautiful and maddening,” she said. “It’s so hard, of course, but it’s that that feeling of ending your day and putting them to bed and Ryan and I look at each other like, ‘We did it, we came out relatively unscathed.’”
Much like their relationship, the couple try to keep their kids out of the spotlight. Gosling is not active on social media, and Mendes has responded to people accusing him of not being an active parent because doesn’t appear much in her feed.
“I don’t talk about Ryan and all the wonderful things he does as a father because I keep that part private,” she wrote. “I feel it’s best that I continue to disclose what I’m comfortable with but not involve him or my kids too much. It’s not about being cagey or weird, it’s just about staying private in a public space. Does that make sense? Hope so. Because this is my honest answer.”
But Gosling did share a little bit about what it was like parenting under lockdown conditions from the pandemic.
“Our kids are young, so it was a tough time for them to be separated from other kids and not being able to see family and whatnot,” Gosling told GQ. “So, we did our best to entertain them.”
Mendes promoted Gosling’s new movie, The Gray Man, sharing a poster for the film in which Gosling looks like an undeniable dreamboat.
“My man making all my 1980’s action star dreams come true,” she captioned it.
She also got excited about Gosling’s role as the iconic Ken in the Margot Robbie-led Barbie film.
“So. F. Funny. So. F. Good. So F excited for you to see this… she joked, hashtagging it #Thatsmyken.
On November 15, Mendes shared her new inner-wrist tattoo on Instagram, a design that spells “de Gosling.”
Mendes, who was raised by her Cuban parents in Miami, may be referring to the tradition of adding a husband’s last name onto the woman’s original name after their marriage, using “de” or “of.” If Mendes and Gosling were married, her name could be Eva Mendes de Gosling. Fans took the tattoo as a sign that Mendes and Gosling are secretly hitched.
Mendes then made an appearance on Australia’s Kyle and Jackie O Show, where they naturally asked about the tattoo. Co-host Brittany Hockley asked directly, “There’s a rumor that you guys might have secretly tied the knot. Is that true?”
Mendes replied, “But who says we weren’t already? I like to keep it all mysterious. I’m a very mysterious woman.”
About the the tattoo, she said, “I do have a tattoo. It’s just a press on…no, it’s not a press on. But I got it years ago. I posted a picture and I’ve gotten a lot of funny questions.”
Aimée Lutkin is the weekend editor at ELLE.com. Her writing has appeared in Jezebel, Glamour, Marie Claire and more. Her first book, The Lonely Hunter, will be released by Dial Press in February 2022.