Some women say sorry too much, some men say sorry too little, but Taylor Swift admitted she has been trying to change the latter with her music. Swift spoke about how she has deliberately written songs to teach men how to properly apologize as she kicked off her Eras tour in Glendale, AZ, on Friday night.
Footage of Swift surfaced on Twitter where she said while introducing her song “Betty,” “So, sort of a running, recurring theme in my music is that I love to explain to men how to apologize. I just love it. It’s kind of my thing. I love to tell them step-by-step, ‘Here’s how simple this is to fix things if you just follow these easy steps that I’m laying out for you in a three-minute song.’ I just love the idea of men apologizing.”
The comments come three years after a clip of Swift talking about apologizing too much herself from her Miss Americana documentary went viral.
Swift started by addressing unhealthy gender stereotypes, saying, “I’m trying to be as educated as possible on how to respect people, on how to de-program the misogyny in my own brain. Toss it out, reject it, and resist it. Like, there is no such thing as a slut. There is no such thing as a bitch. There is no such thing as someone who’s bossy, there’s just a boss. We don’t want to be condemned for being multifaceted. Sorry, that was a real soapbox.”
“No—” Director Lana Wilson said off camera.
“Why did I say sorry?! You’re just…”
“It’s, no, it’s because we’re trained to say sorry,” Wilson pointed out.
“Yeah, we legitimately are. We’re like, ‘Sorry, was I loud in my own house that I bought with the songs that I wrote about my own life.’”
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